Joyful Loving – Your Questions & Joy’s Responses
What holds you back – & what do you need to ask in order to get clear if this course is right for you & book your place? If you’re perched on the fence, wondering whether to jump into this gorgeous ongoing circle (& yes there are many unknown riches on the other side) here’s my responses to questions that I’ve been asked most, to help you decide.
I’m keen but I’m really busy, how much time do I need to dedicate to this?
Its high value in Secret Garden that awakening work is integrated into your ordinary life. You need 4 days 3 times over this year & then the same next year, 12 of the training days are at weekends & 3 more are Bank hols, so that’s only 9 wekdays needed over 2 years. It’s recommended you do at least 15 minutes home practice each week – however, you can always take a break & start up again when you have the time. the energy of the circle holds you whatever is going on.
Is it worth the investment?
The financial investment may seem high, but the teaching costs are on the low side, & the accommodation costs can be paid for in 2 stages over 2 years. I’ve seen crazy price for courses not as good as this-only 1 module that costs £9000+ with a less experienced, less able facilitator. This makes Joyful Loving look excellent value especially with discounts &/or bonuses.
And what is the price of a divorce? Financially & in terms of broken families?
What is the cost to you in lost fulfilment, unrealised intelligence, poor choices & yes a less expanded life & income, of your playing a smaller game in your life than you could?
I did a calculation that amazed me. When I work with a group you have pretty much total access to me. I don’t hide behind a stage or hordes of assistants. A module is around 37 hours. 6 modules mean that’s 222 hours of group time. For a private one to one session I charge £79 per hour. So if you join this group you receive access to me that would 1 to 1 cost £17,538! Investing in your transformation is the best you can make. Noone can take it away, it can’t be lost. And it reaps rich rewards in your outer life too.
Does this training really work?
YES! -many men & women have now completed this Joyful Loving trainng. I offer a feedback form at the end of the course, & even I have been surprised by the total passion & moving transformational stories in the feedback. This does, of course, depend on your willingness to follow the programme with committment & commit to taking actions – inspired by insights gathered & the openings you experience during the training – in your everyday, ordinary life. I share testimonials on the website to reassure you that this is REAL, authentic & groundbreaking, cutting edge exploration, that WILL BENEFIT YOU.
I feel really nervous, resistant & afraid of doing this course. Does that mean I shouldn’t do it?
Fear is the most common feeling along with excitement around this course. We’ve had so many negative messages around our relationships & se-uality. This se-ual energy is the pure energy of life & it is essential rocket fuel for happiness & above all for your transformational process. It’s all about baby steps.. incremental progress adds up to extraordinary, life-changing gain. When I’m facilitating groups around the world to audiences on how to facilitate your evolutionary awakening, it’s often assumed that there is one glamorous answer or event in life that solves everything. There isn’t. Your belief in that will keep you stuck. You simply need high quality, ongoing reflection, self-honesty, loving, awake community & safe space – which you get in this group – to risk going beyond the ego’s comfort zone.
I’m single – will this course work for me?
Yes! The entire course is designed to work for you man or woman, either alone or with a partner, or for those who are in relationship but attend alone. It’s likely you are looking to deepen your realisation of beingness. And if you want a partner, you are far more likely to attract the right one for you during or after this training!
What about couples?
You may have a partner who doesn’t share your passion for truth but supports your lone exploration, becasue it increases the love you share, you may be a couple who know you need to connect deeply in order to break through your conflicts & struggles, together. Or maybe you are a couple keen to serve each other deeply into spiritual awakening. It’s all welcome – the field looks after every outcome.
If you getting more alive & full of pleasure, while experiencing more self-worth & love will help your relationship, then, great. Relating & intimacy is the theme we explore but it’s focused on your OWN AWAKENING & how that relates to the dream you create outside of you. However we do intend to dive deep into everything you need to let go of & learn in order to be able to make love with absolute pristine consciousness. Aaah sweet surrender!
My love life-& life!- is already great, what can this course still do for me?
Embodied spiritual practice is like yoga: the more you do it, the deeper you go. Some benefits are full-bodied orgasm, which can be used for spiritual practice, better health, & awakening fluid flow in the chakra energetics.
Men are no good, (or women drive me mad). What’s the point?
The best way to find out what’s in the way of love for you being with your dream beloved is to look inside with total self-honesty. the circle is your perfect mirror. it becomes your perfect lover.
Shouldn’t I just wait until next time? Or try to meditate more at home?
Secret Garden gives you ongoing conscious community. Healing is more powerful when experienced in a group. Even though the stories of our pain are different, pain itself is collective & requires others to allow us to dissolve it fully. When light & love increase, old pain can surface or strong emotions about unresolved current situations WILL come up.
As you move towards freedom & joy, it is INEVITABLE you will contact your deepest shame, emptiness, hatred & not good enough-ness.
This is easier than you may think but requires great compassion from friends, the spiritual community you create for yourself, in the circles, and great authenticity and self-honesty. It is much safer to be ‘sorted’, ‘together’ and to know who one is at a personality level, even though it is all made up! Then, you have to integrate the learnings & TAKE ACTION, take small risks, be self-honest in ordinary life.
I dont know how to do this-I always get it wrong & I’m not loveable
You are a human being. Evolution is natural & inbuilt. Trust that more than the negative messages you have been told or the limits you’ve taken on. I will guide you, answer your questions, above all love you, every step. Co-operate with nature’s impulses & your suffering will decrease, ease & happiness will increase, Let others love you until self-love grows, sweetly & organically, self-love is the primary way we heal & align with life so that all else just gets so easy. Sadly in life limiting beliefs always get reflected back until you find a guide to help you unpick your map of reality & create a new one. I cant help you if you refuse the help that is available & works.
I’ve never felt really fulfilled in love before – can this course help?
Yes. Men have learned & been amazed about things theyve never known about women & love before. Women have now had their first o through doing the Joyful Loving course! & many find they deepen trust & bodily pleasure in ways they never dreamed of. You will have a new experience of relaxation & surrender into peak experiences & gradually everyday life becoems an ecstacy.
Perhaps it will hurt too much or rock the boat to start looking deeper & facing myself? Can’t cope with the intensity.
It hurts a lot more not to! Others sense your pain even if you think you keep everything ‘together. And unresolvednes & resistance will get mirrored back to you in all sorts of unpredicted ways. Life is intense! especially if you dont have conscious support & some education about what helps you surf the waves. Resistance to life & living it totally weighs your life & being down.
Why would I want to listen to others or relate to a whole group?’
Being in the circle with totality is meditation. Everything shared touches you in some way. Everything is your own invitation to dive deeper & be in love with existence, with life as it is. Let the life of the circle grow your heart wide open.
And in turn you receive the power of the holding of a circle of committed fellow travellers. We need to be witnessed in our human beingness in order for pain to dissolve into the joy that always is, always was & ever shall be.
I want to do this course, but I feel I will have to share with you something that I think is too strange or difficult to be heard. Nothing is too strange or difficult, if your ultimate intention is integration & love. Holding onto something all by yourself is lonely, stressful & unnecessary, you are welcome into the circle & to share whatever you need to share so that you can embrace this journey. Your honesty is others’ opportunity – to open their hearts wide! And know that how you participate is up to you, always.
Am I too old/young/ to do this course? No. Participants’ ages range from late twenties to seventies enrolled at the moment – sensuality is important at any age & whatever your age, nationality, walk of life, your uniqueness is warmly welcome.
How much tantra is in this course?
This as a profound transmission of Tantric & daoist practice, from me & Tim,a couple who have a joint 40+ years of living it, but above all a way to give you the foundational principles & tools I found were essential to a vibrant, healthy way of being & an awakened, true life for a man or woman.Most tantra on the market is superficial & gives people a ‘high’ experience which is then not grounded. Nor does it assist people in the dismantling & integration required for true healing & wholeness.
Joyful Loving training is a beautifully comprehensive, synthesised way to give you the awakening tools to release the body of old conditioning & create the fluidity in the body & chakra system that are essential to a vibrant, health, awakened life. It will make any spiritual practice much deeper & much more immediate. I’m an AWAKENER & have worked with people in the realm of deep transformation. including s-uality & its invitation to freedom, for 20 years. I’m passionate about giving you the wake up calls, the tools & the deep openings to create the life you know somewhere is possible, the life you long for. To pretend you are not a s-xual being does you a disservice. so this course goes very deep into that arena, but is always grounded. It isn’t about a hyped up experience you just have in the workshop. it’s context, its ground, is always The Most Intimate.
I hope this helps you decide whether the course is right for you! Please email or call if you aren’t sure about whether to join us
If you’re feeling a YES, trust that soul call – you can join the course here
Aloha. All love (Whichever side of the fence you end up on..;)),
P.S Time to step up but you have to act now. Now is time to act – enrol & bring world class facilitation & support into your life. This is your time. Join me now – I would love to be your awakening guide, would love to serve you to be the love you are, & a life of beauty, joy & love.
You can do this live the love you are, love. See you soon. Book your place here Just imagine what this might lead you to…..
We recognise that you will have your own unique enquiry about this group & how it might relate to your life. Call 01452 813241 or 01452 813241 or email if you have other questions. We encourage you to reach out & allow us to support you in finding clarity about whether or not this is right for you.
Join us…..This surrender to the fullness of being, feelings, sexuality & spirit in organic unison, realised in Joyful Loving, opens you to beauty, joy & soul in your relating & love-making & also deepens friendship & harmony between you & all you meet & between you & your lovers, partners, spouses, children, parents & friends.
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This is a wonderful present for your loved one or yourself!
- I know now what it means to 'make love'
Elspeth Hurst, Lincoln
- You are so so vigilant about constantly taking away from us our goals & ideals of becoming perfect or good & therefore deserving & loveable person we long to be (but already are!). I realised that I don't expect perfection from myself anymore & therefore not from others & so I don't get disappointed or offended easily which means I also don't feel 'tangled up in others' in that exhausting way
Surahbhi McMellahn Ashburton
- The ability to facilitate and hold a sacred space for areas of relating and personal development that is rarely, if ever, offered elsewhere. The feeling of safety and being held by the circle; the sense of wholeness felt by relating in a way, and with a depth, that is rarely possible in the usual course of living. The deep feeling of mutual trust, and the formation of close bonds within the group. Offering the encouragement to step outside normal boundaries, thus facilitating change that might not otherwise have happened.
Graham V. Bath
- Working with Joy has been very useful & rewarding for me, especially to reclaim myself as a sexual woman, to have permission to explore asking for what I would like and how to do that, to gain a much clearer understanding of the biological, energetic& psychological differences between men & women, all in safely held (though sometimes personally challenging) situations.
Intimacy is a main focus of the work; it is never about performance but about presence, integrity, truth and honouring (self, especially). Having said that I have learned a lot of practical information & skills.
Carole Clements, Bathford